(clapping) Yeah we’ve been talking about the internet a lot because the internet is a lot. And Donna Tetreault who is our parenting expert was saying, “You give your children zero, zero privacy on the internet.” You may think that gives them the message you don’t trust them; that’s not true. And be straight up with them about that. It’s not that I don’t trust you, it’s that I don’t trust all the predators. I don’t trust all the people that are on the internet that are there for one purpose, and that is to exploit young, naive, unsuspecting kids. That’s who I don’t trust. You I trust, them I don’t. And it’s my job as a parent to protect you, and I’m gonna do that. And you can’t see around corners. Hell your brain isn’t through growing until you’re 25, so I’m not possibly, not even considering letting you go out into the wild wild web without somebody watching your back. I’m going to do it every time. And if that means you need to get in a chat room with an assumed identity and make sure there’s not somebody grooming them, then do it. You do whatever it takes. As you’re listening to this, what’s jumping out at you? When she was a little girl, you wouldn’t let her, as a toddler, go out to a swimming pool by herself for fear that she would drown. So you have to get in the water with her at that point and help her learn how to be in the water and respect the water, just like you do with technology. And at that time too, I’m sure that you got her swimming lessons, right? Yes.
Yup. Okay, so that’s that time with tech too that you have to start educating age-appropriately time limits, what’s appropriate, you’re bringing in the value system into your family. And then of course I’m sure you put a fence around that pool, those are the “parental controls,” but we know kids get around the fences, and they drown. So that might be one way to get her off, but it’s really the education, and overall the oversight. When she turned 10, 11, 12, 13, I’m sure she still wasn’t swimming on her own, that she could swim on her own, but you had to be there to watch her. So it’s really thinking about it from an education perspective, and then really the oversight has to be there. It just has to be there. So how much privacy do you think kids should have with their internet access as they’re growing up, 10, 11, 12, 13? Zero. None. And you have to talk to her with compassion, you need to speak to her and try to understand where she’s coming from. How can I help you? I want to protect you. I love you. You’re my baby. I’ll do anything to protect you. We did that.
‘Cause it’s us against the predators, online bullying, and all these people who want to disrupt her life. Now if they have a private diary that they lock and put it under their bed, leave it alone. But if they’re out there where somebody can get to them, do it. And you need to gain the knowledge. Those game controllers, these things that you think they’re just back playing the game? They could be in the same room as you and be getting groomed by a predator. Raise your knowledge. (guitar music)