Self-Defense Basics: Lesson 10 – Make Yourself Uncomfortable

Self-Defense Basics: Lesson 10 – Make Yourself Uncomfortable


Howdy. Ando again from Happy Life Martial Arts and
this is it! Congratulations on making it to Lesson #10
in our Self -Defense Basics Course. You did watch all the other ones, right? Well, either way, in today’s lesson, I’ve
got something new and a little review. Let’s get to it. Remember way back in Lesson #1 when I suggested
that you make yourself comfortable? Well, once you’ve succeeded in doing that,
the next step is to make yourself uncomfortable. That’s right. I’m now asking you to purposely add some
discomfort, some tension, maybe even a little pain into your daily routine. Why? Because there’s more to self-defense than
just learning how to hit a bad guy—there’s also learning how to take a hit. The more we can train ourselves to keep our
cool and stay focused under pressure and even in pain, the better our chances of surviving
a violent attack. So, it’s time to toughen up. How? In Lesson #6, we talked about stepping into
stress on purpose. The idea was to spend some time with things
that annoy us, frighten us, shock and disgust us, so that we could begin to control our
feelings towards them. But that was just psychological. Let’s take a step deeper into stress by
getting physical. No, don’t worry–I’m not going to ask
you to hit yourself in the head with a hammer–let’s save that for the next course–but here are
a few safe ideas to put stress on your body so you can train your brain to deal with it. For example, the next time you feel hungry,
be hungry. Skip a meal just to prove to yourself that
you can break your routine and still survive. Or how about the next time that you feel too
hot or too cold, just be hot, be cold. Don’t misunderstand me–I’m not asking
you to get sick or to hurt yourself, I’m asking you to give yourself chances to test
your will power. I’m asking you to purposely make yourself
uncomfortable so you can prove to yourself that you’re not a whiner and you’re not
a quitter. Every time you do that, you’re building
up your spirit to be a little tougher. Let’s kick it up a notch. When was the last time you took a cold shower? The first time I tried that, I gave up right
away. I thought I was going to die. But then I realized something–if I can’t
take a cold shower, how can I take a punch? If I can’t stand up to cold water, how can
I stand up to a violent attacker? Once I thought of the shower as a chance to
test my will power, everything changed. It became a lot easier. I still hate it, but I can take it. And that’s the whole point–training your
brain to deal with discomfort. So, if you’re not already doing it, give
your brain that challenge—go start a fight with your shower. It’s a little bit creepy to show you video
of me in the shower, so let me give you another challenge that’s more family-friendly. Back in Lesson #5, we practiced dropping our
weight into a squat stance. Let’s do that again, but this time, I want
you to hold it. Like that. Keep your back straight, relax your shoulders,
keep your knees aligned over your feet, and just see how low you can go. Now, you might have heard of Kung Fu students
holding a horse stance like this for hours at a time, but don’t worry about that—I
don’t. Just drop low and see how long you can go. Now, don’t get the wrong idea about this. The goal is not to make your legs stronger—the
goal is to make your soul stronger. When you feel your legs shaking, that’s
your body screaming at you to give up… but every second you hold on, that’s your soul
telling your body, “No.” Every second you keep going is more proof
that you are tough. Of course, if you have bad knees or odd feelings
about horses, you can test yourself the same way in a plank position, either on the hands
or on the elbows. Or just pick any position that you find difficult
to hold. The idea is simply to test your will power. Make it part of your daily routine to feel
good by making yourself uncomfortable. Okay, that’s enough of that. Here’s something to think about. We all want the same things out of life, don’t
we? Safety, success, happiness? It’s not what you want that makes you special,
it’s what you’re willing to do to get it. If you whine, complain, and quit every time
you’re confronted with stress, pressure, and pain, then you’ll get nothing. You might even lose what you already have. So, train yourself to stand up and toughen
up. Train yourself to survive. Train yourself to win. By now, you know that self-defense is more
than just learning how to punch and kick—it’s a way of life. It’s a constant practice of placing yourself
in a position to survive and succeed no matter where you go or who you’re with. In this course, I’ve shared some simple
ways to train to do that every day. Here’s a quick review. You wake up. Pillow on your belly. Give it a bump. Kick off the covers. Scoot off the bed. Pump up your spirit. Pound the pillow with hammer fists and elbows. Take your pillow, slam it into the wall. Head butts, palm heels, elbows. Now be a bullfighter. Pull it in close, turn. Stay on the attack. Say thank you to your pillow. Now set it down and make the bed as fast as
you can. Now, fast feet. Run in place as fast as you can for 30 seconds. Then sprint to the bathroom. When you get there, mirror. Drop into your squat stance. Catch your breath and while you’re waiting,
maybe brush your teeth. Rinse your mouth. Look at yourself. Practice telling people how you feel. “Hey—I don’t like that.” You’re getting hot. So, jump into the shower, turn on the cold
water. Don’t scream. Don’t flinch. Just take a cold shower. Next, towel off and get dressed as fast as
you can. But wait– before you go anywhere, put it
all together in a quick round of shadowboxing or shadow-defending. Create a scenario for yourself—the scarier,
the better. Take a strong stance. Tell someone to back off. Move your feet. Protect your head. Attack. Drive to the side. Pretend to take a punch to the face or get
stabbed. Take a fall and then fight to get back up
to your feet. Yeah, I know—fighting phantoms in the air
seems a little crazy, but it’s a wicked smart kind of crazy. The best fighters in the world all practice
shadowboxing or visualization in some form. And now, so do you. Okay. With all of that done, now you can stand tall,
take a deep breath, and smile. Smile because you remember that you are a
cause worth fighting for. Smile because you’ve done something to prepare
yourself to go out and make your world and maybe the whole world a better place. My final tip. Even if you make a couple of these ideas or
all of these ideas a part of your daily life, you still might find yourself getting sucked
into the belief that you are not prepared for a violent attack. You play the “What If” game. “What if I don’t see him coming? What if he has a knife? What if there are two or three attackers?” Look—the truth is you can’t prepare for
every situation. You can only train yourself to respond to
every situation with focus and confidence. You can only train yourself to trust your
ability to figure out what to do if trouble comes your way and then attack it with a fierce
fighting spirit. Never forget that you are a powerful person. You may have been led to believe that you’re
not, you may have talked yourself into believing that you’re not, but your power is still
there. Like the sun, sometimes it’s hidden by dark
clouds, but it’s always shining. In the same way, even when you can’t see
it, even when you can’t feel it, your power is always there. The power to make a decision. The power to take action. The power to make a change. So, come clouds or clear skies, let your light
shine everywhere you go and in everything you do. If this is the end of your self-defense training,
then congratulations on taking this video journey with me. It’s been an honor. Of course, I hope you’ll build on this course
by finding an in-person class in your area. Who knows? Maybe we’ll train together someday. No matter what, I hope you’ll always find
some time to work on your own empowerment. When you make yourself healthier and happier,
you increase your ability to make other people healthier and happier, too. So, never feel guilty about setting aside
some “me time”. Think of your “me time” as “we time”. Give yourself some love so you’ll have more
love to give the people in your life who deserve it. Speaking of other people, if you found value
in these lessons, let me ask one last time to share them with someone you love or everyone
you love! If they choose to skip it or trash it, hey
– at least you tried. Until I see you again, say what you need to
say and do what you need to do until you can find your smile. Then let that smile be your shield and your
sword. Keep fighting for a happy life.

75 Replies to “Self-Defense Basics: Lesson 10 – Make Yourself Uncomfortable”

  1. Yay first comment, and yes I watched the other ones, though I still don't have any person to spar with.

    I guess its just the same with working out, embrace the pain and make yourself uncomfortable.

  2. Excellent series! Sometimes the simplest ideas can be very powerful , helpful and effective. Thank you for sharing!

  3. I feel most comfortable in a sideway defensive stance with my left arm partially stretched i can parry and push with and my right hand at the hips ready to throw a karate straight punch if they attack.

  4. This one was one of my favorites in the series. Hard to pick, though, because they are all great!

    You’re still going to make videos, though, right? 😬

  5. What a nice guidelines to be better version of us !!
    Really appreciated accept my respect..all respect

  6. I can make my self uncomfortable by
    Pooping
    Pooping position
    Running
    Keep opening mouth for hour
    Not eating noodles
    Drinking 8 glass of water in minute

  7. I know a black belt fighter I learn his fight and imagine he is fighting me and Dodge and attack him next day I kicked him in head and he fell down

  8. Thank you sir for all the valuable content.. Seeing notification of your video fills my 💜❤ with joy..

  9. Thank you for all your tips and effort put into this series. Glad I could be a part of it, even by just as little as commenting. Can't wait to see you next time.

  10. You always gives some of the best life advices to us.
    Thank you. Thanks Alot sensei, for taking your time and effort to make our lives better.
    Oss

  11. Great advice that I've used personally to improve my pain tolerance. I'm comfortable in the fact that I can push through being uncomfortable.
    Mind over matter

  12. 👌👌👌🙏🙏🙏💪💪💪💪💪🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌😇😇😇😇😇😇😇😇

  13. Because this i love martial arts, is not just excercise or kicks, punchs.
    Martial arts means make stronger the mind, the spirit of your will and your self-control and you describe it in a perfect way!

  14. Ando your advise is invaluable you speak from the heart with such passion I've enjoyed your lessons immensely i have learnt so much not just about techniques in self defence but also about myself and what I'm capable of. Thankyou from my heart to yours.

  15. I missed all the other lessons, but I'm sure you're supposed to be hitting the other guy with the hammer, not yourself.

  16. I think when I was taking cold showers in middle school and started weaning off them in high school, that helped me climatize to the cold and feel fine walking around Central Oregon in winter with the same attire I wore all year, underwear, socks, shoes, blue jeans and a T-shirt. If you start climatizing, you rely less on warm clothing an heat from camp fires, but it IS possible to lose it (happened to me in later high school). I still take on from time to time, but since the host where I'm staying won't pay their gas bill and just uses pretty much a microwave oven to heat a large space, all the more reason I should go into doing them more regularly. As to how much colder I had to be in order to feel cold, I would recommend everyone try getting into this, even if just starting with weaning the hot water off at the end of the shower and spending a few minutes in cool water for a week to ease into it.

  17. Thank you sensei Ando for your latest video. Also enjoyed your previous ones
    Not only the martial art techniques you "bring to the table," but the philosophical, practical, and spiritual well being aspects. Very refreshing. This latest video seems like you've completed your videos. I hope not. Always look forward to watching and trying to incorporate it in my everyday life.
    Thanks again for your videos!

  18. Thank you sir before I was just watching you for entertainment but tnx to you my fear are gone and now Im joining a boxing group now Im going for a try out tomorrow. Wish me luck!

  19. Thank you really much for this great journey you took us. This series helped me a lot. I appreciate it very greatly!!!

  20. I train this way as part of the Neigung I am developing from my Baguazhang training. Its great to hear the change in language as people grow in their self awareness. Terms like "fear setting" and the benefits of Eustress, Thermogenics, and Fasting come in to play here; micro-stressors which condition the body and the mind to enhance ones durability across the board. Thanks again sir. Namaste!

  21. I watched this earlier and just tried the cold shower thing. I had to take it slow at first, and didn’t just totally throw myself in there the whole time, but I did it.

    Within the first ten seconds, I could feel the bones in my feet chilling, and when I forced myself to wash my hair in the ice cold water, it literally felt like my scalp was being ripped apart. But I did it.

    Thank you, Sensei.

  22. Alright, i know what your saying.. your saying that in sted of (for example) lifting a big weight and making your muscles weak fast, your saying to lift a small amount of weight until those sed muscles GET FRIED.

  23. Hey, Ando. I got a mild concussion from getting smacked in the head with something. Do you think this'll cause any problems? I like to do martial arts, so yeah.

  24. One inspiration after another 😁
    Where have you been all my life?
    Someone like would have helped me through a lot of situations in my childhood 😊

  25. I have been such a softie,pampered,never went out into the cold,peope who I thought were my enemies,WERE TELLING ME THE TRUTH!!

  26. So our kindergarten teacher was training us as kids? They would make us "sit on the wall" and if we moved we got thrashed with a switch. This was in the 70 's before Americans were candy asses.

  27. The two things I liked the most from the course were:
    1 Everything that wasn't physical. Prevention, mindset, they are absolute requirements for self defense, but I dont find them often so nicely compiled together.

    2 How you put the physical techniques principles in such a frame that they are logical and easier to remember, and really natural.
    Overall, loved the course, really helpful : )

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