– Hey guys, we are backstage
at the Business Boutique event and I heard that Emily
Ley was gonna be here, and I was like, “Someone contact her, someone contact her to see if
we can get her on the show.” – I’m so glad to be here. – Emily, thank you.
– Thank you. – Seriously, I know some of you are like freaking out right now ’cause she’s on because I know so many of you love her. But those of you that
don’t know who she is, Emily will you kind of just like share a little bit about who
you are, what you do, all the above?
– Absolutely. Yes, I do all the things I feel like. I’m a mom first and foremost. I’ve been married for 10 years now and I have a seven-year-old little boy and three-year-old
twins, a boy and a girl. – Twins, I can’t believe it. – It is a circus, but it’s wonderful. – Yes, yes. – It’s more than we ever
hoped and prayed for. And I’m also the creator
of the Simplified Planner and founder of the Simplified brand. So I have a team of amazing women and we make products for
women to help simplify and organize their lives
so that they can spend time on the things that matter most to them. – So good.
– Yeah. – You know, on this show we talk so much about budgeting money.
– Yes. – That’s kind of like
one of the main focuses. And you do just a brilliant
job about your time, budgeting your time.
– I try. – It’s like yes. Okay, so like what are
some things, you know, it’s the holiday season
and everyone’s like being pulled in like 18
different directions. – Yeah.
– So like you’re a mom. Like this is your life. So like what do you do when you feel like there’s like all these things going on? – It’s so stressful and I feel like I have times in the year, especially, where I feel like I’m
doing a really good job, having everything kind of, you know, all the I’s dotted, all the T’s crossed, and everything’s kind of going
the way it’s supposed to go. And times in the year where I feel like I’m being terrible at everything, and I’m disappointing everyone,
and I’m stretched too thin, and I’m frazzled and frantic, and I am my absolute
worst when I’m like that. So, with the holidays I
feel like I have to just decide early on what memories—
especially as a family, I try to always put that first— and say, what memories do we wanna make? If I look back on New Year’s Day, what do I look back
and say, “I’m really glad we did this”? It might not be that we went
to all the Christmas parties or we went to all of the
major productions in town, but maybe we went and drove around and saw the Christmas lights,
and that’s something we do year after year, or maybe it’s
some other family tradition. But starting ahead of
time and planning it out and saying, “Okay there’s
three things that I wanna do,” and making those happen
just like you would a dentist appointment or anything else. Having those just already
lined up and planned for, it helps you kind of work
other things around it. – Yes. – And make sure at the end of the day you’re focusing on what
matters most to you. – So, for you, as a working mom, ’cause there’s a lot of
working moms watching, I love to ask other working moms like, number one, I know that
life balance is not really a true thing.
– No. – We’re all out of balance all the time. So how do you deal with
things like the mom guilt and deal with, you have kids and you have this booming business, and
like all of the above. Like how do you do it all? – How long do we have? – I know, see it’s like. – Can I just have my feet up and like? – Do you mind if I just? – I know, it is so hard and
I totally agree with you that balance is not a
thing that you just achieve. Like I think a lot of times
we see people on social media or we see other
entrepreneurs and we’re like, they’re doing everything. Why is it that they
have like six inch heels and perfect hair and
dinner on the table at six, and my life is a disaster? – Yes, yes. – My first book, Grace Not Perfection, is about that very thing. I wanted to have this perfect life where I had this beautiful balance that existed all the time, everyday where my children were perfectly behaved and I was a wonderful cook. I’m a really bad cook. That’s a whole ‘nother story. – Well, talk to . . . I get it, I get it. – I’m really good at ordering to-go food. That’s a whole ‘nother story. And business was great
and it isn’t a real, it isn’t a reality. And so I just had to learn
to give myself a lot of grace and know that everyday
was gonna look different, and I also had to say,
“Okay, what is good enough? At the end of the day, what will I regret? Will I regret not going
to that conference? Or will I regret not showing up at the Halloween party at school?” You know, and for me,
I quit my full-time job after two years of working two jobs. I was able to leave my full-time job and I did it so that I could
be a mom with flexibility. And that’s it.
– That’s good. – That’s the only reason I
started a small Etsy shop, so that I could have a side
income to bring into our family and it grew much further beyond that, but at the end of everyday,
even with a business like we have now with
thousands of customers around the world, at the end of the day, I go to the Halloween party, you know? – Yup, yup, yup. – And that has to be, for
me, what’s good, what’s good. – Yes, yes, yes, totally. – Somebody said a quote
and I’m gonna get it wrong, whoever it was, but it was,
“Don’t sacrifice the good to chase the perfect.”
– Oh, that’s good. – And so for me what’s
good, what’s good enough? And then giving yourself
grace along the way. And one more thing about balance. I heard this analogy once that balance is like riding a bike. You’re never just fully there. You have never just arrived. You’re constantly shifting
your weight from left to right to keep from face planting. – Yes, that’s so good. – That’s me on the bike everyday. I just don’t wanna fall on my face. Some days I have to
spend more time at work. Some days I’m with my kids more and you just, you go back and forth. – That’s right, that’s right. And different seasons, different decisions are going to have to be made. – Oh definitely. – You have three great tips
about simplifying your schedule. – Yes.
– So talk me though this. – Well, I think you have to
start with taking inventory of where you are. So, what are you currently committed to? My husband laughs whenever I get out a big poster board and a Sharpie. I have to have a big
poster board and a Sharpie. But when they come out
he’s like, here we go. – It’s about to happen. – It’s coming. – What do you do with it? Do you write everything down? – I write everything down.
– That’s good. – So like what are committed to? We’re committed to church,
we’re committed to school, we’re committed to these volunteer things. – And is this like what are
you committed to in life? Or is it like . . .
– In life. – Or in the month? – In the month, so in life for us is like we have this church
thing, this volunteer thing, this work thing, this kid thing, and we have to write ’em all out and see like, where are we? And then number two, what can we cut? You just have to unapologetically say no. – Yes, yes. – I can’t be part of this, even though this volunteer project is
good or being classroom mom is good, I can’t do it in this season. And so say no, finding
things that you can cross off the list and then
manipulating things in a way where you have margin. I think a lot of times
with this time of year we over-schedule ourselves. – Yes. – Maybe we have 20 memories we wanna make with our families so we have
back to back to back to back, and especially with little
children, that does not go well. – Yeah, no, no, no, no. – At least with mine. And so we have to build in
days that are just down days, and build in time that’s just white space, and not feel so compelled
to fill that white space with stuff, you know. I think as a society we’re
a little uncomfortable with like being bored. – We totally are. – Or like taking naps. – That’s exactly what I was saying. – Totally underrated by the way. – Seriously though, like the
quiet freaks people out now. Freaks people out and I’m
probably guilty of this ’cause it’s like okay, well let’s okay, just look at my phone. You gotta be doing something all the time and that rest, truly, just
like doing nothing is so good. – Yes, yes. – It’s so good for you. You can actually like hear your thoughts. – Yeah. – And think through things. – Right, it’s crazy. – It’s so good. Oh gosh, well you are so
brilliant on so many levels. – Thank you. – I was like I wanna ask
you like 18 . . . all these topics. – I love it.
– And all of that. – So yeah, I’m just so
thankful that you are such a great resource for
so many women watching and for moms like me, just
the encouragement you give. And your advice is so, it’s
kinda like my money advice. It’s like it’s so simple it’s
just hard to do at times, so like, change that behavior. Getting in the habit, you
guys, of simplifying your time and being so, so intentional,
which is your message. – Right.
– It’s gonna help you out this holiday season for sure. So Emily, where can everyone find you? – On Instagram and Facebook at emilyley and also Simplified and at emilyley.com. – And my favorite thing
you have are your pens. – Oh, we love the pens. – Actually, like
the box we sent out to people. I was like can we get Emily Ley pens? – Oh, I love it. – I love all of them. – They’re so cute.
– They’re so great. – So everyone check out
everything she does. (upbeat music)